Tuesday, March 31, 2015

When to Fight, When to Walk

"Grandfather," she started to ask, "When does one know when to fight for something and when to walk away."

"My dear granddaughter," grandfather started, "When going up the path on a mountain, if the terrain becomes blocked, it is time to find another way around. This may require one to head down the same path they walked, in order to find the path that gets them around the barrier."

If the debris on the mountain is not that intense one should fight their way through it, however if the mountain pass is in deed great, it is just safer and better to find a new way around it. If it takes more energy to fight through than to walk away, then you should spend your time walking instead of fighting. The Tao is limitless in energy, but not wasteful in effort.

In life things will break, and if you have the power to fix it, one should, however if one is incapable of fixing the item, one should toss it and find a new item, or work on creating it again from scratch. A pebble thrown in the ocean would take too much effort to bring back, however walking upon the beach one may find a pebble just like the one lost. If you value a pebble do not throw it away, if you value a person fight for them, do not just give up. When we talk about people though the rock has just the same amount of power, if the person has been let go and does not want to sink, they should fight for what they want, but recognize too where underlying things led to the problem in the first place.

People do not change unless they go through a traumatic event little one. Broken people can not be fixed as easy as one believes, and usually ends with little to no progress made in trying to piece them back together. The easiest solution when it comes to broken people is to not try to fix them, but not be with them as well. Be there for them as a friend, or avoid them all together. One should never try to fix what another does not fix in  themselves.

Life is filled with pain of the heart, with heated anger, and with hurt feelings, however life also is filled with love, kindness, and healing. If a person focuses only on one side of the coin they will never be able to see the whole, or determine the truth in their life, or see where one may cultivate themselves to be better.

It is always good to look at the whole than at the piece. Eyes can be used to see only what the eyes see. One can see more when using all senses, when one uses the Tao to look upon all things and aspects one will truly see the events of future dealings. An animal in the wild does not rely on sight alone, but masters all senses for the protection of itself, and of its kind.

When in life you fight for the ones you love, you avoid the broken people that do not want to fix themselves, and you can expect hurt feelings, or pain, but not dwell on it. Pick yourself up in life, and fight for what the heart wants, for the goals you laid down, and for the person you wish to become.

Sunday, March 29, 2015

..::Toxin, Failure, and More ::..

Grandfather what does it mean to be in a relationship, the little one asked. The Loashi thought a moment. The truth would best benefit the child, and would help her understand. The very core of a relationship though elusive, can be found, the old man thought to himself.

Little one, a relationship is like that of a bridge, it connects two pieces of land, always need maintenance, and can become dangerous in bad times. It can connect people or create accidents. Though some bridges may not work to the best of the idea, it is always a good idea to never fear a bridge, as they can bring much needed items to one shore or the other.

With that as well relationships work by communications, long term goals, and immense understanding. It has pain and pleasure wrapped up into it, but even when pain comes one must learn to not dwell on that fact, for the very pain can consume you, and prevent any other bridge from being a good thing for your shore.

The grand-daughter sat and pondered the meanings. For this little girl was one of cultivation, one of the mind, spirit and of old. She studied the masters, enjoyed the meaning in things, and never focused on just words in themselves, but enjoyed the deeper meaning that they presented.

Grandfather, she continued, what does it mean to be toxic in a relationship? Grandfather sat and thought about it. Toxins exist in nature to deter and poison those that should partake that poison, but is poisons in nature a bad thing little one. Poison protects, poisons can heal, and poisons are only poisonous to those that do not know the proper way to handle the plant or animal. Does not snake venom heal snake bites when processed by those who know? Toxins in a relationship are decided by frail minded people, even a toxic relationship if handled correctly can cure many sicknesses. However, if unable to process and incapable of handling, then one should avoid the snake venom.

 Granddaughter, said the old man. Let me tell you about two concepts in life. One will be what one should strive for and the other avoided. They are like a coin, two sides of the same item. You do one and the other never shows. Failure and resolve are the words my little one. Failure in life only happens when you give up on your resolve, not when you did not accomplish a task. Just because you did not meet expectations, one should always keep trying. One should always have resolve in getting to a level and then growing from there. When one stops having resolve, that is the time that one fails. When one stops walking forward is when resolve ends, and failure begins.


Author Note:
For those that has read Jade Cove over the years, they have noticed a monk talking to a master. The author is about to be a grandfather and decided that in my love of her, I plan on writing here things I would like the grand-daughter to learn, items in life written in the Tao way of meaning.

Friday, March 27, 2015

..::{Back To the Original Cove}::..

Starting tonight the Cove goes back to writings, interpretations of master and lessons in life. The enjoyment of living within my own mind. Recently ran into a situation where I shared my emotions and a truth to a friend, and they were hurt. They expected me to apologize to them. Unfortunately my friend mentally died, as one should not apologize for their emotions and feelings, much less a friend should never require another one to apologize for speaking truth and emotion to them.